Hihi! I am Serene Heng:) I was born on 22 December 1988, a huge baby who weighed over 9 pounds. I grew up in a humble house, raised by my adorable parents. I have two elder sisters, 4 nieces, 1 nephew, and 1 rabbit. Hahaha はじめまして。 どうぞよろしくお願いします！
2015 Resolutions1) Learn how to swim
2) Learn to speak the Japanese language
3) Go for dance classes
4) Take part in Oschool Dance Recital
5) Help my P6 students do well for PSLE
6) Decent savings in my bank
7) Run 100km by 2013
`°•.¸¸.•°` Monday, October 15, 2012 `°•.¸¸.•°`
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For two consecutive days, my parents have been dropping hints as big as bombs into my face. They made no attempt to structure their sentences in a more implicit and pleasing manner. Rather, they fired their missiles as a matter of factly. I rolled my eyes.
Wedding jewellery. I find the dolls really cute though.
They have made their intentions crystal clear.
Day one, Papa Heng led me to the jewellery shop "unknowingly" as he admired and commented how exquisite the golds looked. Then he naturally spoke about the "过大礼" and "四点金" in our Chinese culture. Those were obviously for wedding purposes.
Day two, I was at home helping my parents look after my nieces and nephew. It would be a Jounin level task to make them sit still for 1 minute. Dad took the opportunity to tell me that it was not easy looking after 3 kids together. HOWEVER, he could still do 2 more. As if his smart daughter (me) didn't catch his words, he said,
Since her husband is at it, my mother decided to join in the fun with a hint of threat lurking behind.
I kept my cool and did not present any reply. But the voice inside my head was like that:
Marriage is a sacred union shared by two people who are in love. It is a ritual I duly respect. While I may have reached a legal age to marry, it does not mean that I must get married now. This is a concept which I feel, hasn't been saved properly in a lot of people I know.
Almost everyday, I get Facebook notifications telling me that who is engaged to who. Almost everyday. Of course, I am genuinely happy for the love birds who finally tied the knots. But for others, I couldn't quite display the same kind of jubilation.
Certainly, I want to get married. I do not wish to become a spinster. But I want to get married only when my partner and I are financially stable and comfortable about moving on to the next stage of life together. In my humble opinion, marriage should never be an outcome due to peer/elder pressure, been together for too many years or because the girl is pregnant (commonly known as shotgun). I am sorry for being blunt, especially if your case is one of the above that I have mentioned. That is just how I felt.
Unplanned pregnancy is the worst thing for the development of the baby. It puts pressure on the baby, the mother, and basically everyone who is in the loop. It disturbs the harmony of the family and routines that the couple once shared. I want the best for my baby, to let him or her grow in a healthy and happy environment. That is the least a mother can provide for the child. If I am not capable of providing these, then I do not fit to be a mother yet.
These are my criteria I set for myself. Yours might be different and that is completely fine. My parents, for one, have brought up my sisters and I well even though they weren't millionaires nor professors.
A mother is a woman who give birth to a baby. A mom, on the other hand, devotes her maternal love for development of the baby.
Everyone can be a mother, but I want to be a good mom.