Hihi! I am Serene Heng:) I was born on 22 December 1988, a huge baby who weighed over 9 pounds. I grew up in a humble house, raised by my adorable parents. I have two elder sisters, 4 nieces, 1 nephew, and 1 rabbit. Hahaha はじめまして。 どうぞよろしくお願いします！
2015 Resolutions1) Learn how to swim
2) Learn to speak the Japanese language
3) Go for dance classes
4) Take part in Oschool Dance Recital
5) Help my P6 students do well for PSLE
6) Decent savings in my bank
7) Run 100km by 2013
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`°•.¸¸.•°` Tuesday, April 3, 2012 `°•.¸¸.•°`Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here are of the author's self reflection and are not directed at any particular individual. Read it with an open mind.
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Come on, let's be true to our self. Do you really believe that humans are altruistic by nature? While I do agree that sometimes actions are spurred out of goodwill, but if I were to measure the occurrence of that against a action motivated by other motives, then I could write a 5k report on that.
I am not being a pessimist here, just being real to myself. I am sure there are people who are willing to sacrifice themselves for the welfare of others, or someone they care. But I can only think of one type of people: Parents.
I don't know about others, but my parents would go all out for me. I would do the same for them too. In a way, they give me my life, they created me. I think I would be forever in debt to them, for the pain and sufferings they bore in order to have me. We are blood-related, so it is only natural that I would do everything for them.
We behave differently towards a family kin and a stranger, although I am sure some of you looked at them as equals, for the better or worst. What would I say towards a stranger then? I am sure most of us have donated notes or loose coins to charity cans in the public or helped an elderly crossed the road. But I guess that's the limit we would go for a stranger. The act is directed one way, one from the giving end and one from the receiving. Usually, we expect no returns from doing something out of goodwill. So why should we do anything more? It doesn't benefit me in anyway else, does it?
That limit is set based on the difficulty level, duration and effort required by self to complete that task. For example, it is easy to give up your seat on a public transportation. It is a quick process and doesn't require too much effort from me. So since the task is within my limit, I would then give up my seat. But things change on days you feel tired and just want to nap on the train. In this case, the effort from you is much higher than other days when you feel fresher. Hence, the outcome would go back to how high or low your limit is.
Beyond that limit of goodwill, I see it as a form of business transaction. An exchange is performed because I have something you want and you have something I need. Hence, we do an exchange for the best of both worlds. On the contrary to goodwill, business transaction benefits both parties. Every financial transaction takes place because the task is well beyond their limits and our limits. For instance, getting a haircut would benefit me, and if every hair get their hair cut, then the entire population would look great and presentable. However, from a hair stylist point of view, providing free hair to one or two people might seem acceptable, but why I should I cut everybody's hair for free? It is beyond the stylist's limit. Which is why a monetary exchange needs to be conducted in order to benefit the stylist. And this applies to all other business transactions.
Do you agree with me? I don't know why I am blogging about this. Probably it is just random babbling that sprouted out of nothing after take a break from studying. I am not judging anyone, just purely doing a self-reflection.